Last week I received a text from my girlfriend who brought to my attention that this month is Woman’s History Month and Monday, March 8th, is International Woman’s Day. She wanted to remind me to acknowledge and appreciate all the women in my life, then continued to list them off to me. It’s one thing to know you have a lot of close friends of the opposite sex, and it’s another to have your partner not only give each of them by name, yet do so in a way that also shows her appreciation they enrich and bring joy into her partner’s life as well.
I don’t believe her expectation was for me to post a blog showing my appreciation. I think she had meant for me to text a strong woman quote to my close friends followed by, “I appreciate you, Happy Inspirational Woman’s Day.” As I always tend to do, I figured I’d go one step further.
I’d like to appreciate my two beautiful girls. Yesterday, as I had looked back on my Junior Prom and Senior Ball pictures, I realized my oldest daughter was robbed of those priceless experiences from her High School years. Both girls are struggling due to the pandemic and doing online school. Even though they still have strong connections with friends, as was pointed out to me the other day, it’s like Groundhog Day, where every day is exactly the same as before. I listen to their values, the way they see life, how they interact with others, and I feel so blessed for who they’re becoming. We may have conflicts, I mean every relationship does, and yet, I’m grateful we can reconnect, repair, and find solutions to better communicate in the future.
I appreciate co-parenting with my ex. Not only does she find a way to make her schedule match my ever-changing monthly schedules for when we have our girls, we’re also on the same page when it comes to values and how we co-parent. I look forward to once again bringing back our parent/child date night where each of us will have one daughter to spend one on one time with. I’m grateful she is invested in the betterment of their lives and loves them unconditionally.
I appreciate my roommate, who emailed me out of the blue on a Craigslist ad over four years ago. I felt so awkward and uncomfortable searching for a roommate who was not only responsible, yet one that got along with my girls and I as well. We’ve been blessed to help raise her son and have created a separate family unit, “the village”, which has been so enriching to my girls and my life. We always look back in surprise, never realizing that one brief interview would lead to many years of living together and having her become such an important role model in my daughter’s lives.
I appreciate my good friend, who not only was instrumental in my life when I stepped out of my comfort zone to follow my dreams and become a flight instructor 25 years ago, she also supported me through the final stages of my divorce and has been a cheerleader in my recovery and my writing. I’m grateful she’s a huge part of our village, as well as her two daughters who have become close to mine. I enjoy our talks, hanging out, and sharing the Holderness Family videos.
I appreciate my co-worker and yoga partner, who, not only inspires me and encourages my yoga routine, but also has become a close friend. I love our monthly challenges and sharing routines with each other. My only wish is that our schedules matched better so we weren’t like two ships passing in the night (literally, two airplanes crossing paths in the sky) and we could do yoga together on the beach in Hawaii.
I appreciate the women in my writing group, so many strong, inspirational women who are rising out of the ashes of their past working towards sharing their stories to help other people heal from their traumatic history. Two of them, I was blessed to have in Tommy Rosen’s 8 Week Awakening Accountability Pod. I’m so glad we have kept that connection alive via Zoom. Natalie Brobin’s book, Everyday Self Care and Your High-Needs Child was just released today. I’m so excited for her and I’m grateful to have been a part of her journey from starting the book to final publishing.
I appreciate my cousin who was my best friend growing up, like a sister to me. I’m grateful my airline has announced it will be flying to the city she lives in which may someday lead to me having an overnight there followed by meeting up for dinner and beer, our go to when we catch up on life.
I appreciate my two step-sisters, each from 2nd marriages from both my biological mother and father. I may not have had a sibling in the house growing up, however, I’m so glad I have sisters years later. We do live thousands of miles apart and I appreciate the time I get to share with both of them on the phone and in person when I have the opportunity to visit.
And this is only scratching the surface of the many women who are influential in my life. I have a good friend in New Orleans who always sends me a daily Good Morning meme or gif. She’s sure to keep me straight on what day of the week it is, always celebrating every day as a special one. I have all the pilots I’ve flown with over the years, the flight attendants I’ve had the pleasure to work with, especially my “crash pad mom” who I lived with for over five years when I needed a place to stay before and after trips or sitting on call in a different state.
And to bring this full circle, I’d like to again appreciate my girlfriend, who supports my extremely busy lifestyle while maintaining a long distance relationship. I appreciate her art, watching her visualize a project from beginning to end, her creative brain rapidly spinning to turn a piece of coal into a sparkling diamond. I’m grateful she steps outside her safe place to connect with me in ways she doesn’t always feel comfortable with, keeps our communication channels alive through text, and is so encouraging of what I’m doing. I appreciate she treats my daughters as if they were her own and has an extremely loving and giving heart. I appreciate she’s open and vulnerable with me and is willing to work through the challenges that life brings. I’m glad my girls love her “vibe” and want to spend time with her. I feel blessed learning that life does go on and is not even as close to terrible as I had once thought it would become.
Happy International Woman’s Day to all the wonderful women in our lives! Let’s send appreciation, gratitude, and show them how much we do value them.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
“Daring Greatly (v) The courage to be vulnerable, to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need, to talk about how you’re feeling, to have the hard conversations.” ~ Brene Brown
“You become what you believe. You are where you are in your life based on everything you have believed.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
“You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.” ~ Michelle Obama
“It’s your responsibility to show the world how to treat you, by the way in which you treat yourself.” ~ Lisa Nichols
“Women, like men, should try to do the impossible. And when they fail, their failure should be a challenge to others.” ~ Amelia Earhart
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.” ~ Helen Keller
“It’s not about how much you do, but how much love you put into what you do that counts.” ~ Mother Teresa
“I declare to you that woman must not depend upon the protection of man, but must be taught to protect herself, and there I take my stand.” ~ Susan B. Anthony
“It’s not the absence of fear, it’s overcoming it. Sometimes you’ve got to blast through and have faith.” ~ Emma Watson
“Love yourself first and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in the world.” ~ Lucille Ball