I receive numerous daily emails that give me inspiration: daily meditations, daily affirmations, writings from different 12 Step communities, bible verses, a 365 day divorce blog, etc. Many times, one of these speak out to me. I want to share one from The Winner’s Circle, The Pacific Institute that showed up in my inbox the other day.


This reading states, in yet another way, what I have said in my first few blogs; “we create our own reality through our thoughts and our beliefs.”


January 12, 2017

A Different Perspective, by Intent

Do you look at the future with anticipation and a belief that no matter what comes your way, you will succeed?  Or, do you look at the future as hopeless, and there’s nothing that can be done to change it? What you believe has a lot to do with how well you weather the challenges in life.


Continuing on with our conversation thread from yesterday, let’s talk about how our beliefs affect what happens to us. A couple of things to keep in mind:  1) As human beings, we move toward and become like what we think about; and 2) Our present thoughts determine our future.


As human beings, we move toward and become like what we think. Click To Tweet


Our present thoughts determine our future. Click To Tweet


As human beings, we are goal-oriented. Also, we are picture-oriented. We think in pictures. If someone says, “purple polar bear,” you don’t see the words “purple” “polar” and “bear.” In your mind, you actually picture a purple polar bear. You see, we don’t see with our eyes. We pick up light with our eyes and then it is translated into images in our brains, depending upon how we’ve been conditioned to translate the light. Words create pictures, and we are drawn to pictures.


So, if you believe the future is hopeless, you will be drawn to every hopeless, depressing, “it’s only going to get worse” story you can find. We are comfortable when we find evidence to prove what we believe is true, and we act in accordance with those beliefs. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy. “I knew it was going to be bad, and it is.” We are programming ourselves to perceive only the negative.


The same thing holds true if we believe the future is full of opportunity, and that we have the power to make it even better. We will see evidence of the possibilities, and be drawn to them, because that’s what we are thinking about. It is not surprising that people who look with positive intent are healthier, happier and generally more successful at life.


So, how do we switch that belief?

It’s all about changing the internal picture we hold, and it isn’t going to happen by accident. By taking a different perspective, it is made, first, by our intent.



The Universe Is Talking


“Hey, Rafiki,” I ask. “What do you think about inserting a blog within a blog?”

“What do you mean?”

“Well, I hear so many good things, I want to share them with the world.”

“Didn’t you already do that with The Purpose is to Give Meaning to Others?”

“Oh yeah. I did do that.”

“If what you find you believe is relevant to your readers, then yes, make a blog within a blog. I would like to point out, that after reading your blogs, I hear a different voice than what I used to hear.”

“Different voice?” I ask, confused.

“Yes. I can tell they are helping you. You are stepping outside of your story instead of remaining immersed inside of it. You don’t sound as desperate and hopeless as you did when you were journaling. Looking at yourself as an observer to your own story instead of being a part of it, has helped you step away from the emotional junk that used to bring you down.”


Healing begins when you become an observer to your own story instead of being immersed in it. Click To Tweet


It’s true. My blog has allowed me to take a different perspective towards my divorce and my recovery. My writing prior to this was very victim orientated and focused more on the pain I was experiencing rather than helping me learn lessons so that I could grow from them.


“Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional.”

Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional. Click To Tweet


For the past two years, I have spent all my energy focusing on the suffering I was experiencing. This gave me permission to wallow in my own pain. It gave me permission to remain a victim and the justification to blame my ex as a perpetrator. By tormenting myself with the ache of divorce, I rationalized the things I said and did that hurt my ex.


I created my own reality with my suffering.

I created my own reality with my suffering. Click To Tweet


Through my blogging, I am learning that it is ok to have the pain, but I don’t continue to wallow in it and make it worse. 

I am learning that it is ok to have pain, but I don’t have to wallow in it and make it worse. Click To Tweet


I realize I ‘m not going to change overnight, but I can feel a shift coming. I pray that I can continue this journey with all of you helping me to stay on track with my changing perspective.


I hope my blogs will help other individuals follow suit.


How has your perspective changed? Or what do you need to do to change your perspective so you don’t have to continue to suffer?


Until next time, continue to Rise from the Ashes, so you can Soar with the Eagles!

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