Texts With Rafiki – Healing, Forgiveness, and Shame

It’s time for another random text conversation of meaningful (and sometimes meaningless) quotes between myself and Rafiki. If you’re new to my blog and have no clue as to why I would post random texts, or, you would like to check out other random stuff that Rafiki and I have chatted about, check out Chronological List of Texts with Rafiki.

There’s really no theme to the texts on the 15th of May; random quotes about healing, forgiveness, and shame, along with an article about parenting children with anxiety.

4/15/2019

“Do you want to get well? Not everybody does. Some of you have been complaining and complaining and complaining and you have not done what it takes to get well because you know that sometimes getting well is harder than staying sick.

“Sometimes getting help, calls for more humility than staying sick. Sometimes staying sick, you get things that you won’t get if you get well.

“Let me just ask you before we move on. Whether it’s that physical ailment or that habit you keep going yeah yeah yeah. It’s your physical condition. Yeah yeah yeah. I need to. I need to. I need to. You should at least answer this question in the mirror when you get home.

“Do you want to get well?”

~ Andy Stanley

“Is the reason why you haven’t gotten well and paid the price because staying sick, staying in  the habit, going to be a serial dater where every relationship ends up the same is easier than getting help?”

~ Andy Stanley

“Forgiveness doesn’t change their past. It changes your future.”

 ~ Kyle Cease (he heard it from someone else)

For Kids With Anxiety, Parents Learn to Let Them Face Their Fears

 

Interesting article

That is interesting. Sometimes it feels easier for me to rescue my kids than to let them learn how to do it themselves. This is something I struggle with.

Its easier at the beginning

Agreed!

It’s that hard balance:  Is it wrong to let your child touch a hot stove?  Is it wrong to stop your child from touching a hot stove?  Ever evolves….

And around and around we go.

Is it wrong to let your elderly parent touch a hot stove?  Is it wrong to stop your elderly parent from couching a hot stove…..

“Deprivation and shame lead us to create an external reality that reflects our inner sense of worthlessness. We create outside circumstances that match our inside experience of deprivation. Some do this by under earning, keeping themselves unable to adequately provide for themselves. Others attempt to camouflage their feelings of deprivation by overspending, filling their homes with things that disguise what they feel inside. Still others neglect their own needs while overspending on the needs of others.”

~ Karen McCall (Financial Recovery: Developing a Healthy Relationship With Money)

“Shame is like everything else; live with it for long enough and it becomes part of the furniture.”

~ Salman Rushdie