(written March 18, 2017)


The Quest for Joy sometimes seems as mystical and futile as the Quest for the Holy Grail. Whereas the Holy Grail is said to be the cup of the Last Supper and has curing magic properties, the Quest for Joy is said to be the cure to all our problems.


Just find happiness and life will be better. At least that’s what they tell us.


Now how do we do that amidst our pain and suffering?


Are you ready to join me on a quest to find the answer?

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(started January 17, 2018)

(finished May 8, 2018)


January 17, 2018

It’s been really hard for me to get the motivation to write lately. Having my Grateful Sunday blogs, my Motivational Monday blogs, and my Wednesday Share Day blogs have kept things current on my website, but I haven’t continued on my own personal journey of self-reflection.


I kind of just stopped.


I don’t want to hear what I’m going tell myself.


Even though I’ve been doing well with self-care, I’ve realized that I’ve been avoiding writing from an observer perspective. I’ve also noticed that I’ve struggled being honest with Rafiki (both my friend and my own internal voice).


In a way, I’ve sorta went back into my story.


Today, it’s time to stop resisting and find out what it is I’m avoiding. Although, I think I already know the answer .

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My former spouse reminded me of a remark I had made about her almost ten years ago. This was one of many damaging comments I made about my wife while we were married.


It’s important to realize that when we’re not mindful, words can become daggers that cut into the souls of someone else’s heart. Once we vocalize our faulty thoughts, we can never take them back. We leave shotgun sized holes in a person’s psyche that may never heal.


And sometimes, that person is us.


These stories become the poison that kills the inner child.


These injuries are brought into interactions with family and friends. They’re carried into relationships. They are passed down to children.


This cycle of pain continues from generation to generation, from person to person. People suffer. Society suffers.


There is a solution. It takes persistence. It takes time. It takes courage.


We may uncover parts of ourselves we don’t wanted to face. It may even mean we have to change.


Sometimes we must step into the dark to appreciate the light; experience the winter storms to cherish the summer.

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