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Wednesday Share Day – January 31, 2018

I love the quote today’s share starts off with…


“When you can’t look on the bright side, I will sit with you in the dark.”



This is one of my work in progress personality traits that I still struggle with. As a typical male, I believe in fixing things. Looking deeper into my own motivations and beliefs, it’s probably because fixing things brings me validation and worth. Maybe that’s why men try to fix. They want to be seen as worthy and valuable.


In fact, I think another reason I try to fix someone who’s emotionally off is to ease my own discomfort. My former spouse has always told me I tend to flip things an make them about me. Ugh! I guess she’s right. If someone else feels happy, I don’t have to experience their pain.


Using a story The Most Powerful Way to Help Someone Through Emotional Pain reminds me that I don’t always have to make someone happy and pretend things are ok.


This was the main reason for starting Together We Can Heal. So that we can support one another through our pain. So we have have someone that will listen to us. So we know we aren’t alone.


So we can sit with one another in our darkest hours.

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Wednesday Share Day – January 24, 2018


I may be all over the board today, so I apologize in advance. It seems one thing has led to another which then led to another. You know how that goes.

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Wednesday Share Day – January 17, 2018

I started listening to Oprah’s Supersoul Sunday podcasts last week. Monday morning I got up and thought it might be better to watch them instead. How cool would that be?


I was scrolling through the episodes and I saw that Oprah had an interview with William Paul Young, the author of The Shack. I had reluctantly read The Shack in 2008. This opened the door to me exposing my shack (my secrets) to an emotional affair partner, who later labeled me as a sex addict. She insisted that I come clean with my spouse and start the long road to recovery.


I resisted her pleas.


It wasn’t until my wife caught me in a lie and demanded that I “man up” that I ended up disclosing the secrets I held so tightly. It was not the first time I opened my shack to my wife, nor would it be the last time. This disclosure was one of many firestorms that ripped through our marriage.


On Monday, I felt drawn to hear Paul’s story. What was in his shack? What was his “great sadness”? What prompted him to write the book that later became a movie?

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