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Addiction Messes Up Our Partners

(written March 9, 2017)


As I finished Understanding PTSD and started my next blog, Sex Addiction Induced Trauma: How Sex Addiction Impacts the Partners, I found this piece I had written back in March, over five months ago…



Last night, before I went to bed, I had this idea for a blog; how addiction affects the people we love.


When I was preparing for tomorrow night’s speaker presentation in my 12-step group, I looked back on my actions of the past and how time and time again, I lied to my ex, I betrayed her, and I caused her not only to not trust me, but she learned not to trust anyone. My actions caused her to protect herself, shut down, and learn that it was not safe to be vulnerable.


This morning I had coffee and a very nice conversation with her. I know, I know; be careful with boundaries.


“I cannot hope and grieve at the same time.”


That’s become my daily mantra.

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Surrender to Help

I’m out of the country on a business trip and when I land back in the United States my favorite baboon has left me another piece of wisdom. Sometimes he’ll send me a blog, or a newspaper article, or just a quote.


This time, it was a TED Talk.


Did you know that TED stands for Technology, Entertainment, and Design? Me either.

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