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Wednesday Share Day – March 21, 2018


Ok…this first share isn’t the “actual” share I was going to give today, but I thought this was cool.


Yesterday was The Spring Equinox – thank you Google for the animation. I had no idea that the Spring Equinox meant that most places would have an equal amount of daylight and night (12 hours each). That means Spring is now here and today we’ll have just a little bit more daylight than yesterday. YAY!


Wait…isn’t there another snow storm hitting the North East today? Maybe Google was just teasing us yesterday.


My share this week is focused on the family of an addict.

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Wednesday Share Day – January 17, 2018

I started listening to Oprah’s Supersoul Sunday podcasts last week. Monday morning I got up and thought it might be better to watch them instead. How cool would that be?


I was scrolling through the episodes and I saw that Oprah had an interview with William Paul Young, the author of The Shack. I had reluctantly read The Shack in 2008. This opened the door to me exposing my shack (my secrets) to an emotional affair partner, who later labeled me as a sex addict. She insisted that I come clean with my spouse and start the long road to recovery.


I resisted her pleas.


It wasn’t until my wife caught me in a lie and demanded that I “man up” that I ended up disclosing the secrets I held so tightly. It was not the first time I opened my shack to my wife, nor would it be the last time. This disclosure was one of many firestorms that ripped through our marriage.


On Monday, I felt drawn to hear Paul’s story. What was in his shack? What was his “great sadness”? What prompted him to write the book that later became a movie?

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To Find Connection, I Must Remove the Poison – Part 2

(written 02-12-2017)


I know, I know. You’re here expecting to slash the machete through the thicket of my complex brain while we discuss my processes through EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing).


Sorry to burst your bubble. Not today!


I learned something yesterday that I wanted to share first. It’s important, so bear with me. We’ll explore my jungle tomorrow.


I’m currently taking a course by Dawn Clancy called ACOA 101. Yes, I have numerous workbooks, podcasts, books, and a variety of other recovery resources I’m doing to really understand my internal pain and how to heal it. This has become my personal goal, my life mission so to speak. You’re just lucky enough to join me on this Rocky Road.


For some reason, I’m currently craving ice cream.


Anyway, what I just learned was, that as a child of a dysfunctional family, I was expected to follow three implied rules. These rules are explained in Claudia Black’s book, Children of Alcoholics: It Will Never Happen To Me.


The three rules are:

  1. Don’t Talk
  2. Don’t Trust
  3. Don’t Feel

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